When you break-up with and boyfriend / grilfriend who neglects and abuses you. Watch out because some men / women don't want to give up that fast so make sure that you watch out for yourself!
When he / she breaks-up with you, DO NOT get back into a relationship with them because most people don't change. Trust me I learned that first hand.
Please be careful! I hope that all of you who read my blog will have better luck in relationships then I have.! Go out and have fun! Peace.
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Monday, October 5, 2009
Getting out of ackward situations
Here are some guidelines that will help you with safer dating.
1. Limit the information you share. Do not give your home or work address to someone who in not known to you.
2. Double Date. Date with a friend, group of friends, or a couple you know. Safety is in numbers.
3. Let someone know where you are. Leave someone you date "details" - when you are leaving, where you are going, who you are meeting, and when you expect to return.
4. Drive your own car. Having your own transportation allows you control over your situation and is both safe and practical.
5. Date on your turf. Spend your first date somewhere that is familiar to you or where others may know you. If you choose to go to an unfamiliar place, take the TEST: study your surroundings for safety nets such as:
T Telephones - to make a call.
E Exits - to leave the building.
S Security - in case you need help.
T Traffic - as in people traffic, so that you're never alone with your date.
6. Take along your cell phone. If you don't have one, consider investing in a pre-paid cell phone and/or calling card. As an alternative, carry enough change to make at least two calls from a pay phone.
7. Trust your instincts. If your date acts suspiciously or you do not feel comfortable, leave immediately. Your safety and well-being come before politeness in an uncomfortable situation.
1. Limit the information you share. Do not give your home or work address to someone who in not known to you.
2. Double Date. Date with a friend, group of friends, or a couple you know. Safety is in numbers.
3. Let someone know where you are. Leave someone you date "details" - when you are leaving, where you are going, who you are meeting, and when you expect to return.
4. Drive your own car. Having your own transportation allows you control over your situation and is both safe and practical.
5. Date on your turf. Spend your first date somewhere that is familiar to you or where others may know you. If you choose to go to an unfamiliar place, take the TEST: study your surroundings for safety nets such as:
T Telephones - to make a call.
E Exits - to leave the building.
S Security - in case you need help.
T Traffic - as in people traffic, so that you're never alone with your date.
6. Take along your cell phone. If you don't have one, consider investing in a pre-paid cell phone and/or calling card. As an alternative, carry enough change to make at least two calls from a pay phone.
7. Trust your instincts. If your date acts suspiciously or you do not feel comfortable, leave immediately. Your safety and well-being come before politeness in an uncomfortable situation.
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
Are you looking for a man to stand by your side? If so read this blog.
- Personaltiy: Happy, Curious, Calm, Loving, Responsible, Lovable, Honorable, Hopeful, Cheerful, Selfless, and Kind.
- He needs to support you and let you in.
- He needs to be faithful to you, and only , you.
- If he had to, he would, give up his life to save you.
- He would tell you that he loves you. {At least once a day.}
- He would be able to drop everything to come and help you at anytime.
- He should be able to love you and cherish you untill the end of time
Thursday, July 2, 2009
Gift Ideas
For Women:
Perfume, Candy, Home Cooked Meal, Dine Out Meal.
For Men:
Watches, Cell phones, Cars, Fishing gear, Outdoor gear, Colone, Hair cut, Movie and Dinner.
Perfume, Candy, Home Cooked Meal, Dine Out Meal.
For Men:
Watches, Cell phones, Cars, Fishing gear, Outdoor gear, Colone, Hair cut, Movie and Dinner.
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Don't Date Him, When To Say No and When To Say Yes?
1. Be polite but be firm. You don't want to be mean to them, you just don't want to date them.
2. If you feel more comfortable saying no when you are with someone, then have a friend with you.
3. With some men, you may have to say no more then once. Just be persistent and eventually they will get the picture.
Note by the Author: Please be careful when you choose a boy to become your boyfiriend! Make sure that you get to know him first.
2. If you feel more comfortable saying no when you are with someone, then have a friend with you.
3. With some men, you may have to say no more then once. Just be persistent and eventually they will get the picture.
Note by the Author: Please be careful when you choose a boy to become your boyfiriend! Make sure that you get to know him first.
Ideas For A Fun Date To Freshen Up Your Relationship
Date Idea 1: Head to the zoo or an aquarium. Just because you re not a young kid doesn't mean you can't enjoy the zoo. You can walk around the zoo holding hands and sharing a snack while enjoying all of the animals.
Date Idea 2: Have a candlelight picnic in your backyard. Just because it is night time doesn't mean you can't have a nice dinner outside. You can also bring out a radio so you can have some music and then dance withyour partner.
Date Idea 3: Go to a couple of different cafes. You can have dinner at one and dessert at another. Make sure that they are in walking distance so you can hold hands and enjoy the scenery together.
Date Idea 4: Take a horse drawn carriage ride around the park or around your town. You will have to see if this is available where you live. However, after the carriage ride you can go to any place that serves dessert. Then share one with your date.
Date Idea 5: Go to a theme park. Some people won't like this one but for those of you that do, go for it. Theme parks are always fun and this is a great way to act younger while being close to your date all day and night.
Date Idea: 6: Go swimming at night just the two of you alone somewhere private.
Date Idea 7: Go to an art festival. Enjoy the sites and each other. Then find a quiet place where you can share a meal and talk.
Date Idea 8: Take a walk in the rain. When was the last time you let yourself go and do this? You can also dance in the rain. You will be wet but you will end up laughinga lot too.
Date Idea 9: Go ice skating. This is always fun. You will be able to hold each other while trying to stay on your feet. There will probably be a lot of laughter here too.
Date Idea 10: Go to a summer ball game. You can enjoy the game, put your arms around each other and enjoy a smack together.
Date Idea 2: Have a candlelight picnic in your backyard. Just because it is night time doesn't mean you can't have a nice dinner outside. You can also bring out a radio so you can have some music and then dance withyour partner.
Date Idea 3: Go to a couple of different cafes. You can have dinner at one and dessert at another. Make sure that they are in walking distance so you can hold hands and enjoy the scenery together.
Date Idea 4: Take a horse drawn carriage ride around the park or around your town. You will have to see if this is available where you live. However, after the carriage ride you can go to any place that serves dessert. Then share one with your date.
Date Idea 5: Go to a theme park. Some people won't like this one but for those of you that do, go for it. Theme parks are always fun and this is a great way to act younger while being close to your date all day and night.
Date Idea: 6: Go swimming at night just the two of you alone somewhere private.
Date Idea 7: Go to an art festival. Enjoy the sites and each other. Then find a quiet place where you can share a meal and talk.
Date Idea 8: Take a walk in the rain. When was the last time you let yourself go and do this? You can also dance in the rain. You will be wet but you will end up laughinga lot too.
Date Idea 9: Go ice skating. This is always fun. You will be able to hold each other while trying to stay on your feet. There will probably be a lot of laughter here too.
Date Idea 10: Go to a summer ball game. You can enjoy the game, put your arms around each other and enjoy a smack together.
8 Fun First Date Ideas
1. Go out to eat, but not at just one restaurant.
2. Depending on your budget you could arrange a limo ride to a park for a picnic and a walk.
3. Go out and try something new. If you have never been country western dancing, take a lesson and go to a country bar to try it out.
4. Play truth or dare.
5. Attend a wine tasting or beer festival if you both like to drink.
6. To learn a little more about eachothers tastes in various things go window shopping.
7. You can never go wrong doing something sports related. Golfing, Mountain Climbing, or even attending a sports event.
8. Even a visit to a coffee shop and reading a book if you both like to read can be fun just enjoying each others company.
2. Depending on your budget you could arrange a limo ride to a park for a picnic and a walk.
3. Go out and try something new. If you have never been country western dancing, take a lesson and go to a country bar to try it out.
4. Play truth or dare.
5. Attend a wine tasting or beer festival if you both like to drink.
6. To learn a little more about eachothers tastes in various things go window shopping.
7. You can never go wrong doing something sports related. Golfing, Mountain Climbing, or even attending a sports event.
8. Even a visit to a coffee shop and reading a book if you both like to read can be fun just enjoying each others company.
Saturday, June 6, 2009
Top Five Warning Signs of Abusive Relationships and Friendships
1. Insecurity: Your partner is very insecure because of a previous relationship or maybe as a child growing up. Lack of attention or negative attention can lead to insecurity. If your new partner shows signs of insecurity, let it be a warning sign.Some signs may include:-low self esteem or not sure of them self-talk as if they are not worthyWith these characteristics, the abuser will use them to belittle you to get you to their level. Although it is sad for them, don't allow them to put you through that. You are worthy.
2. Controlling: Your partner may not allow you to interact with other people. Sometimes not even family members or friends. They want you all to them self. It kind of feels like being in a trap or cage. It is especially hard if you are outgoing and love people. There are other ways to control you as well.With emotional abuse the control is in the mind and your feelings. The abuser will cut you down or belittle you. I have found that they tend to shift the blame on you or want you to feel sorry for them.
3. Selfishness: They lack the attention they really desire to have because they are already insecure, so they are always worried about themselves, alone. They want to know what is in it for them, no matter what. They will tell you things to make you feel good as long as they get what they want out of it.Even when it comes to your feelings or emotions, they will not comfort you in anyway. This can cause you to become either hard or just break. It is not fun. I have expressed in a previous article that women need that emotional security. It is one thing not to get it and a whole other thing to have your emotions destroyed.
2. Manipulation: The abuser tends to make you feel that it is all your fault. They can't seem to come to terms that they are the one causing the pain. They shift blame and they don't want to understand you. They make you feel inferior. They like to play mind games as well. That is also part of control.
Some forms of manipulation include:-lack of communication-cold shoulder/no eye contactThey tend to shut down which is a form of manipulation and control. I know you have heard it said that communication is key in a relationship. YES it is, very much so.
1. Anger and Violence: The abuser will yell out in anger. They can 'turn on a dime' with mood swings. It doesn't become physical abuse until they hit or hurt you in any way. Well it is emotional and psychological abuse when they do it to them self.Some signs of anger and violence:-they harm them self-break things or throw them. This form of abuse often goes unnoticed but for those who suffer, it is very noticeable. You may not see scars on the body, but there are some on the heart and mind. This is a silent abuse, that harms your inner being. Don't feel trapped because there is a way out.If you are someone who suffers from this kind of abuse, do not hesitate to leave as soon as possible. You are not alone. To stay in this kind of relationship can cause you deep depression, emotional pain, seclusion and even a trip to the psychiatric ward. Please get help.
Please pay more attention. If you know or have a feeling that you or someone you know is being abused in any way shape or form please report it.
Quote: "As long as you stay silent you are a victim. Once you tell someone. You become a survivor!" -Anonymous.
2. Controlling: Your partner may not allow you to interact with other people. Sometimes not even family members or friends. They want you all to them self. It kind of feels like being in a trap or cage. It is especially hard if you are outgoing and love people. There are other ways to control you as well.With emotional abuse the control is in the mind and your feelings. The abuser will cut you down or belittle you. I have found that they tend to shift the blame on you or want you to feel sorry for them.
3. Selfishness: They lack the attention they really desire to have because they are already insecure, so they are always worried about themselves, alone. They want to know what is in it for them, no matter what. They will tell you things to make you feel good as long as they get what they want out of it.Even when it comes to your feelings or emotions, they will not comfort you in anyway. This can cause you to become either hard or just break. It is not fun. I have expressed in a previous article that women need that emotional security. It is one thing not to get it and a whole other thing to have your emotions destroyed.
2. Manipulation: The abuser tends to make you feel that it is all your fault. They can't seem to come to terms that they are the one causing the pain. They shift blame and they don't want to understand you. They make you feel inferior. They like to play mind games as well. That is also part of control.
Some forms of manipulation include:-lack of communication-cold shoulder/no eye contactThey tend to shut down which is a form of manipulation and control. I know you have heard it said that communication is key in a relationship. YES it is, very much so.
1. Anger and Violence: The abuser will yell out in anger. They can 'turn on a dime' with mood swings. It doesn't become physical abuse until they hit or hurt you in any way. Well it is emotional and psychological abuse when they do it to them self.Some signs of anger and violence:-they harm them self-break things or throw them. This form of abuse often goes unnoticed but for those who suffer, it is very noticeable. You may not see scars on the body, but there are some on the heart and mind. This is a silent abuse, that harms your inner being. Don't feel trapped because there is a way out.If you are someone who suffers from this kind of abuse, do not hesitate to leave as soon as possible. You are not alone. To stay in this kind of relationship can cause you deep depression, emotional pain, seclusion and even a trip to the psychiatric ward. Please get help.
Please pay more attention. If you know or have a feeling that you or someone you know is being abused in any way shape or form please report it.
Quote: "As long as you stay silent you are a victim. Once you tell someone. You become a survivor!" -Anonymous.
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
This Months Tip
Life: Don't live by the rule book. This summer do something spontanious like Free Climbing, Ice Skating, or enroll in dance lessons. Play by your own rules not by everyone else's rules.
Love: Watch out! Don't rush into a relationship this summer. Because it probably is a "Summer Thing." If you are in a relationship that is on the rocks, Remember, Romance always has it's ups and downs.
Fun: This summer go out with your friend's to parties or just hang out at the mall. This summer is supposed to be a summer filled with Romance, Magic, Fun, and Games.
Love: Watch out! Don't rush into a relationship this summer. Because it probably is a "Summer Thing." If you are in a relationship that is on the rocks, Remember, Romance always has it's ups and downs.
Fun: This summer go out with your friend's to parties or just hang out at the mall. This summer is supposed to be a summer filled with Romance, Magic, Fun, and Games.
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